“…mati aja ngerepotin, gimana idup…”
This morning on my way to the office, my angkot driver grumbling because his usual track was blocked due to a funeral ceremony. So he need to make a turn and finding other road which was unfavor to him and making him said that above comment, which can be translated to, “…upsetting in dead, what would it be if he’s alive…”
This isn’t the first time I saw someone feeling upset because of similar situation. I even once experience the same when I was still working in Darmawangsa. Darmawangsa are known as resident for rich and prominent people. They who lived there usually people from high-class level, government’s authority, member of parliament, foreigners, and other wealthy and famous people.
So when this look-like-very-famous-and-wealthy-plus-high-level-member-of-authority person died, they blockade the whole Darmawangsa road (where a lot of international NGO and donor agencies were placed) forcing everyone to search for alternative way to reach Kemang and Blok A, which were also known for its crowded traffic. No one is pleased with that for sure.
In most Indonesia culture (because Indonesia consist of many different cultures), dead are something to be respected. Even in Batak tradition, if a member of a family passed away, instead of mourning for days they held a party as if celebrating. According to their tradition when someone is dead means they are released from the burden of the living world, therefore needs to be celebrated.
So, it was felt kinda inappropriate to address an event of dead as something nuisance.
But when you are running of time, have been catching your bus for half-a-mile, with deadlines in your head, stuck in the traffic for two hours while you are supposed to arrived in your office like two hours before, and not to mention haven’t got any breakfast, it was HARD and almost IMPOSSIBLE not to be annoyed!!!
Having a funeral were almost like having a wedding. People are coming to attend the graceful funeral from everywhere. Flower bouquet were sent. It could even flooded the road. It even more complicated if the person who’s dead were famous or rich. The mourners cars were park everywhere it was almost like the road were a huge parking lot.
Dead could also be a time to show your social-economic status. The more people coming to your funeral, the more important you are. Not to mention the more mourning fund you will receive (DOH!?). It could even sometimes show the social status of the mourners. If you attend the funeral of someone who were considered important or famous, people would also regarded you more significant because they would consider you part of the dead man’s circle.
I wrote this without intention to doubt the feeling of the family who were left behind. They have the right to feel sad and to be consoled. But if possible, maybe, we could make the event of dead more agreeable in any ways by considering how long you will held the funeral so other people around you could do their activity without delaying.
Life after all, needs to go on.
Rest in PEACE!